Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Shaved Heads, Goatees, And Other Misdirected Attempts At Reaching The World. . . .

There's nothing wrong with shaving your head. . . except maybe for me with my knobby skull. There's nothing wrong with complementing your bald head with a well-manicured goatee. But a few years ago, I noticed that as I would look out over rooms full of youth workers, it appeared that some kind of conspiracy was brewing and I had been left out. There were bald heads and goatees everywhere - on the men in the room that is. I was curious about this phenomena that was making it hard for me to tell people apart. In discussions with observant peers, some of us began to jokingly wonder if this wasn't some kind of attempt on the part of some (certainly not all) to increase their cool factor and somehow become more relevant. What was a initially a joke is in reality - I believe - true for some, not all.

Over the years, I've sometimes referenced these observations as a prelude to talking about cultural relevance. Because I study youth culture for the sake of effective cross-cultural work with kids, many people are surprised to find out that I oftentimes try to squelch our (the church) growing love affair and obsession with relevance. I think we need to stand back and take a long, hard objective look at ourselves and our ministries to see just what this pursuit of relevance might not only be doing to us, but doing to actually hinder the advance of the Gospel message . . . the noble desire and calling that has made us pursue relevance so passionately in the first place. A misdirected passion for relevance has fostered the increased use of the word "reinvent" when it comes to ourselves and our ministries. We run the risk of unintentionally allowing an obsession with style to eclipse what should be a passionate obsession with substance. Sadly, when we fall into it, we don't even know that this is what's happened. Eventually, our lives and ministries become a series of extreme makeovers, with the short time in between each filled not with more and more reflection on the substance of the message, but with trying to keep up with the styles so that we're ready to jump when the next change is need. . . something which is happening with increased frequently as time marches on.

It's for this reason that I've been speaking more and more about the seemingly subtle yet significant differences between pursuing lives and ministries marked by being culturally relevant, and lives and ministries marked by being culturally informed. Being culturally informed - regardless of my age, shape, size, or hairstyle - means that I have taken the time to listen to another and their context. It means that I know them. It means that when I open my mouth to speak - regardless of whether or not that mouth is framed by a goatee - the person I am speaking to will know that I have listened to and cared for them. Then, they will be more prone to listen to what I have to say. We call this "relationship."

Yesterday this issue came alive in new ways for me as I opened my Summer 2010 edition of Comment Magazine - a magazine every one of you should subscribe to by the way. I literally got chills as I read the first twenty or so lines of one of the absolute best and well-written articles I have read in many, many years.

Here's what Jedd Medefind writes in those first two paragraphs of his article, "What The World Needs Most Is Not Our Relevance":

"Perhaps more than any single attribute, today's Christians desire to be relevant: listened to, respected, wanted in the room. In contrast to those bunker-mentality Christians of yore, we yearn to swim in the currents of our time, converse in its tones, and thus help to shape its character. . . .

What the world needs most from us, however, is not mere relevance. Nor has it any age. The most vibrant moments of Christian history are those in which believers chose a prophetic role - even to the loss of perceived relevance. There's no need to don camel hair robes just yet, but it may be time to rethink our passion for relevance, and whether we'd be willing to trade it or something higher and bolder."

Later on, Medefind writes, "Love of relevance can blind us to things we ought to critique and numb us to things from which we ought to recoil. It can stand as our primary measure of success, often subconsciously, replacing the cultivation of deeper virtues. Its pursuit can consume vast time and resources that God may have given us for other purposes. And once possessed, relevance can prompt us to sacrifice almost anything rather than part with it. Because relevance tends to mirror the trends and values of its culture, it can rarely offer society anything that it doesn't already have - including its prejudices, excesses, and mistaken assumptions."

Medefind makes a strong and convincing case for us to embrace the polar opposite of relevance - the prophetic. It's the prophetic voice, he says, that offers the things society most lacks. Our number one ally in cultivating the prophetic? Medefind points to the right place - Scripture. He adds to that solitude, mentors from other eras, global accountability, and a few good friends.

I love the way Medefind ends his article: "In the long view of history, mere relevance - attractive as it may have looked in its own day - simply cannot compare. It is no more desirable that the feathered hair of a 1980s pop star. Eventually, we always come to see the remarkable truth: the prophetic voice is the only one that was truly relevant after all."

This article is timely, brilliant, and prophetic. You have to get it and read it. Now, think about you, your ministry, your church, the church in America. What needs to change?


Robin Dugall said...

outrageously excellent post! I went to the article directly, printed it out and will pray, think, meditate upon it. I couldn't agree more...I like the way you stated it - there is a difference between being relevant and boarders on being a sell out...the other gives us a prophetic stance that is more faithful to the life of Jesus in me Walt, this is an extremely important post...fact is, I'm going to write on my two blogs on it now and refer to you and your insights!

In Jesus,
Dr. Robin Dugall
Adjunct Prof in Biblical STudies - APU
Project Director - Faith Communities Project

Liz said...

VERY interesting post. I am reading a book ("The Gathering") now about the church, as an institution, and hierarchy and how that seems to be so ineffective and genuinely impact our lives and connect to us. For those people who are starved for a true sense of Christian community and desperate for a church that is relevant (I know you don't like the word but here it is!) to their lives, this book gives them/you hope. It uses Scripture to show the way to recover the church's roots and to again become an effective community of people who are bound together by their love of Christ and each other. Are the big institutions, the big-business churches connected, even remotely with what God has shown us in his word about the local church? This book says no, and goes back to the basics and to the local church. It explores many issues of identity, function and purpose related to being the people of God.

Here's something from the intro -- in which the whole idea that the "church" can get in the way."
In a Bible study meeting, my wife and I had asked each person in turn what they would identify as the most fruitful time of spiritual growth in their lives. Where were they; what were they doing; who might have been involved? I will never forget the answer given by one young woman. She had come from an emotionally disturbed background, but was now a maturing believer of some years. She had found love and acceptance in Christ, and was rising above her past.
A “rough diamond”, her answer was remarkable. “The time of major growth for me was when I said, ‘Bugger the church.’ I moved to a beach with my husband and it was just me and God without a church in between.”

Very interesting stuff. I think you'd find it thought-provoking.

Robin Dugall said...

One more thing Walt, I read everything you post on your blog! Like I've said in the past to you, though we have never met face to face, know that you have an ally and brother in me.


Erik said...

Insightful article Walt. By the way, I shave my head since I would have sidewalls if I didn't (!) and I have a goatee because, heck, if I can't grow it up on the dome, then I'm growin' it on the chin! :-)

Anonymous said...

Great post, Walt! Reminds me of a great book I read a number of years ago: "Prophetic Untimeliness: A Challenge to the Contemporary Idol of Relevance" by Os Guinness - a quick and profound read.

Bill Hodgeman
Associate Pastor of Youth
Pleasant Street Church
Whitinsville, MA
(And slightly ashamed goatee-wearer)

Tim Schmoyer said...

I thought bald heads and gotees were issued with the youth ministry degree upon graduation from Bible college. I had no idea! ;)

Anonymous said...

I understand the concern for holding true to our message without compromising it for the fleeting passage of current relevancy. But I have a son who is searching for his ethnic identity and has adopted an ethnic gang to find it. He will never be open to white bread Christianity. The young hispanic man in our church with the tatoos and motorcycle is the best person to mirror that there is more to Christianity than he perceives. In the Dualistic mind of a struggling teen, sometimes relevancy is the key to opening the door.

Anonymous said...

This fall, I will be celebrating 30 years in Youth Ministry. My head is bald because I've pulled it out. My chin is bushy because that's the only place left it will grow. I'm not trying to be relevant. I'm trying to survive!

Anonymous said...

I agree that relevancy has limited value, especially when it comes at the expense of our essential message to the world. However I have a son who is a different ethnicity than his family and is fetching around desperately for an ethnic group to belong to. He has found an ethnic gang as his sense of belonging. The only reason he is willing to try church with me is because he has heard of the hispanic young man with tatoos and a motorcycle who is "chill" and would like to meet him. White bread Christianity will never get him in the door. Sometimes relevancy is the key that opens the door. Then the message has a chance to be heard.

Anonymous said...

'Seems to me that in trying to be relevant, we are always one step behind. We are watching the world, analyzing it and then trying to imitate it. This whole process takes a certain amount of time. And so we lag just a bit behind the culture that we are trying to imitate. In being a step behind, doesn't that make us seem irrelevant, obsolete, old?