tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1735040292604331611.post2425932509555306155..comments2023-10-17T10:25:57.853-04:00Comments on learning my lines. . .: Priority #1 - She Must Be Hot! . . . .Walt Muellerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16502588185280592205noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1735040292604331611.post-46199087220402793312011-12-08T11:28:37.673-05:002011-12-08T11:28:37.673-05:00I'm going to take issue with part of what you&...I'm going to take issue with part of what you've said here, Walt. <br /><br />You said, ""Hotness" leads us to objectify others and ourselves. People are not people. They are commodified. "Hotness" is killing marriage.""<br /><br />I'm going to suggest instead that "hotness" isn't killing marriage, but our refusal to see our spouses as God's answer to our desire for "hotness" is killing our marriages. Our desire to find attraction in the opposite gender is God-given - it's the basis for an opposite-sex-attraction, which is the basis for marriage, pro-creation, and God's instruction to "be fruitful & multiply." In other words, it's how He created us.<br /><br />It's when this desire is subverted by culture/the Enemy/ourselves (cf: James 1:13-15) that "hotness kills marriage," not any other way.<br /><br />Interestingly, the author of "Zits" didn't draw Jeremy's girlfriend as a voluptuous teen, but as an average one. Which is really quite hope-inspiring to me. You see, most of us women are average-looking; the video reinforces the idea that most of us don't look like the supermodels or the airbrushed images we see. And I believe ALL of us (as women) desire to be considered "hot" by the men we love and who love us, even though we're mostly average. Indeed, I would suggest that if the Song of Solomon is any indication, God wants us to see each other as "hot" and to cherish each other in that "hotness."<br /><br />I do understand your point about the culture and how we raise our daughters, however. I struggled with the lack of perfection my own body exhibited for many years and it's only now, as a married woman approaching the 2-decade mark of monogamous relationship that I'm able to shed the baggage I carried for so long. "Hotness" in a Godly marriage doesn't diminish with sags, wrinkles, and gravity - it increases as the depth of intimacy & shared experience continues. It's a lie of the world that we need to strive to be younger in order to maintain our husbands' attention and "be hot." If we say that "hotness" will diminish with the effects of gravity, we're playing in to the hands of the world and are using our words to validate the lie!<br /><br />I want to protect young women from dealing what I've dealt with, but I think encouraging us to look to God for our satisfaction of self and mate (or future-mate) is a more positive, healthy way to do that. :) If I'd had the benefit of considering how God saw me as a young woman, instead of having my parents trumpet back the message of the world (that you must look a certain way in order to have a man love you)... well, I can only imagine how my early marriage would have been different.Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04871728303306251999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1735040292604331611.post-27862718569992496422011-12-07T16:55:03.949-05:002011-12-07T16:55:03.949-05:00Walt, thanks for sharing... I have shared this wit...Walt, thanks for sharing... I have shared this with a few friends and fellow leaders in our Middle School MInistry. We lead together to impact girls for His sake but struggle with this issue... I had some mixed emotions watching - saying "Amen" but feeling really broken at the same time.... praying for a worldwide change.<br />-KellyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1735040292604331611.post-83139389820887679822011-12-07T16:07:43.964-05:002011-12-07T16:07:43.964-05:00What a great speech. But sadly, the conclusion lea...What a great speech. But sadly, the conclusion leaves us no hope: "Public health problems can only be changed by changing the environment." This has been the standard humanistic answer for all social problems for over a century now. Yet all the changes we've made culturally/externally to bring women into equal standing with men have really changed nothing at the core. As Christians, we must stand up for women who are being objectified. It's not about changing the environment. It's about changing hearts through the Gospel of Jesus. Thanks for your faithful service to us, Walt.JPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03082108872544321000noreply@blogger.com